Just Keep Walking
Take a long hard look at yourself. Go on. Force yourself to take a look. Shocking words, aren’t they?
These comments, jumbled together like the knitting basket of a madwoman, are not the contents of my head. They’re not the hateful self-talk of a depressive though God knows, they could lead anyone to it.
They are a brief summary of just some the hate comments levelled at me over the last two years.
They are the words that have been said to me, screamed at me, posted to me, emailed to me, written about me in other forums, on this blog, in the twittersphere. Occasionally you have left your names, usually you have not. You never leave an address or your photo. You are safely tucked away, anonymous and ensconced in your virtuous, virtual world of pejorative, entitled, privileged viewpoints.
No doubt you all feel better for having got it off your chest. Like little stabs, they have left small scars all over my body, borne by a hostile and self-righteous need to tell me off. No doubt you sleep more easily at night knowing you’ve given me a piece of your mind.
It’s tough enough having to do the everyday stuff of just LIVING, of being able to survive each day, of feeding and clothing yourself, of having a place to live, without other people littering my pathway with their opinions in a misguided and at times insane attempt to be helpful. The best way I have found to get through is to put my head down and keep. on. walking. Don’t stand still, don’t be a passive target. Never put my head up so they can take aim at you, never spout off, don’t be too loud, don’t oppose and never EVER engage them in argument.
That way lies madness.
Here’s the thing about poverty. It deprives you of the ability to believe that you deserve better. It takes away the life affirming vision of aspiration and ambition. It’s not about some melodramatic moment in a turnip field, doing my version of Scarlett O’Hara vowing to the world that I will never go hungry again – it’s about telling myself that it’s just a day, just get through this day, this hour, this minute. This. Wait until you are out of their sight before you scream, before you break down and cry. Before you break down completely.
Here’s the thing about unemployment. It debases your self-worth, makes you question what you will stand for and what you will not. Will I work for $11 an hour cash in hand just so I can say I’m working again? What about $9 an hour? What about 25c an article for copywriting? (These offers have all been offered to met in the last week)
Forget about whether it will pay the rent – Will it be enough to raise my stocks with the world at large who demands I do something - anything – just as long as I am not sucking the public teat dry? Will $11 an hour, presumably for 60 or 70 hours a week to cover costs, be enough to regain some credibility in a material world? Will it restore my dignity in your eyes? Will it be enough to enable me to look the world in the eye without embarrassment, without the constant gnawing fear that no matter what I do, IT WILL NEVER BE ENOUGH?
Here’s the thing about hating on me. Comparing yourself to me is not only easy, it’s derivative. OF COURSE it makes you feel better, feel more smug, more comfortable. You wont admit it of course. Instead you tell me how disgusted you are with me. For what purpose exactly? Does it square up some karmic ledger? Does it make the earth tilt back onto its axis when you hurl your opinions at me? And for what? Being different from you? Not aligning with your world view? Not being pretty enough, clever enough, not thinking it through, for being imperfect and disingenuous?
Does it make you feel better when you tell me that you’re disappointed with me when I used an f-word when defending myself against a stream of passive-aggressive comments? Does it make you feel better knowing that you are SO much better than me? That I’m a disappointment? Fucking hopeless? Pathetic? (Your descriptions of me by the way).
I want to vomit.
Here’s the thing about being in firing line of online vitriol. It strips you of any pretence to greatness or ability. You have nothing with which you can hide your inadequacies, your failings, your pared back pock-marked ego. Nor is there any place in poverty-land for conceit, for flights of fancy, for ego, vanities or illusions. You can’t afford to even think about an alternative. You are poor and maligned goddamnit and you are not wealthy enough to have the luxury of a vision of something better for you. How dare you even dream of a better life. Just get a fucking job – any job, no matter the cost – and stop laying about. You’re poor and it’s a dogeatdog world. There’s no place for generosity, for kindness, for sharing. What ever you do, don’t you dare be choosy.
Here’s the thing about unrelenting poverty. It’s an isolating existence. It rips and tears at your little community. It breaks up families. It evicts you out of homes, townships and friendships. It forces you onto the road of peripatetic life, searching, always searching for something – anything? – that will somehow keep you whole. Will keep you all together. Will somehow bring you back from the brink. Don’t think about the alternative. Don’t think about the awful reality of your children now separated from you, of family long gone, of broken promises and disabled friendships brought about by bone-grinding poverty. Don’t think too much about where you will sleep tonight. Whatever you do, don’t think about next month or next year. Don’t think about it.
Just. Keep Walking.
And so I have walked. Every day for over two years. Carrying my load and, whenever people up-ended their wastebins of hatred, filthy beggars that they are, I cleaned up their shit as well.
And now, I’m done.
The unending support and love from a vast majority of readers and supporters to whom I owe so much is a debt I will NEVER be able tro repay. That said, despite the very real support of people who continue to walk into the shops and buy my book I’m simply unable to continue at present. Know that you are acknowledged and loved in return and when I return I will come back because YOU are here.
But I really do have to get this off my chest once and for all.
It hurts to walk each day. It hurts to think. It hurts to cook and to write. It is unbearably hard to carry the unfair load of prejudice and expectations the haters have placed on my back because they somehow think that even now I must try harder. I’m worn down by the relentless effort required to bring myself back from poverty and unemployment. I’m worn out.
It hurts to be passive and silent when really hateful and sad people say awful, untrue and downright defamatory things. It hurts when you call into question my motives, my success, my ability, my sanity, my ability as a mother, whether indeed my children should be allowed to be with me. It hurts to go through this so alone. It hurts when I am dragged down to your level, imagining you in a bloody pulpy mess on the floor because truthfully, that’s what I wish for you sometimes when I read the things you say. When you come at me with more venom I want you left hurt on the floor. I give thanks every day that it passes. Thank God, it always passes.
I ask whether you could bear it. Whether you could manage. Whether you would hang on grimly as if to a piece of driftwood in a raging ocean, to the scrap of dignity you have left. To that sense of self worth that still forces you to get out of bed every day. I wonder if you could transmute your rage and grief into yet another job application letter, another recipe, yet another act of love and creativity and care and generosity that speaks not of the food it’s made of but of spirit, of humanity, of inclusion, of community, of the care factor for others that you seem so incapable of? I wonder if you could do this on your own, without drugs or booze or sex or shoes or a comfortable home or even the unhappy relationship with your long-suffering partner you cling to, those things you immunize yourself with against the cruelties of an uncaring world?
I wonder if you would do it with humility, without ambition or ego? I wonder if you would endure the unimaginable, the unendurable? I wonder if you could keep on walking? Sure you tell yourself, it won’t happen to you. You’re insured, have a nest-egg for a rainy day, have your health, have your marriage. It won’t happen to you.
Don’t bet on it. The only difference between me and you is about twelve months. Sometimes, not even that.
So – Right now, I can’t keep walking.
I’m taking a break.
I’m not going far, or for very long. I’m still going to post occasionally. For one thing, there are four fantastic giveaways and competitions coming up in the next six weeks in the lead up to my 50th Birthday.
I’m cooking again, for the first time in months but for now I’m not going to share it with you. I’m not. I’m cooking because I want to, not because I have to. I’m cooking again to fire something inside myself. Something like self-love. Something like nurturing, perhaps a long-overdue mothering of my spirit. A homecoming of sorts.
The blog is being redesigned at the moment – it should be looking pretty awesome by mid July – and importantly, it will give you a much easier way of navigating through the enormous archive and catalogue of over 900 recipes. 900 recipes. That’s some journey. Surely as an act of redemption, it’s enough, isn’t it? ISN’T IT?
But most of all, I want to re-think this journey. I want to concentrate on the long road back to financial and emotional control. I want to look the world in the eye, to be an equal. I haven’t felt anything other than a second class citizen for the longest time. (There. You have it. If some commentators are to be believed, it’s my just desserts. Hope you all feel better now, you sanctimonious shits)
I’m 50 in the middle of July. I’m too beaten down to be vain about it. Once, when times were better and I was optimistic, I planned to go to Paris to celebrate. Then I optimistically thought that unemployment would be a matter of days. Then months. Now, I’m just grateful to have a roof over my head (just one room in a many-roomed house, wouldn’t want to get too ahead of myself) and the hug of my children on the day. There will be no surprise party thrown for me and if I want a cake I’ll have to make it myself. It will simply be a pause in my life, just a moment to take stock, perhaps bring back into focus those moments I can still be grateful for.
And maybe then, the next day, if I’m strong enough, I’ll continue walking.
See you on the flip side.
From now on, any defamatory comments about me or about my family, or any vilification or hate mail sent to me will be referred to police and/or legal advisors for further action. The statute of limitation is years, so don’t think I can’t come after you.
Shortly, you will be required to log-in in order to comment. DON’T think your anonymous comments or fake email addresses protects you from legal action. This is MY WEBSITE and you are MY bitches, got it? Good.
FAR OUT. i had no idea! i fucking hate trolls. good on you sandra for fighting back!
{{HUGS}} Take the time for yourself and nurture yourself. I think you’ve done an amazing job…
Haters gonna hate, Sandra. The ugliness they project onto you comes from the ugliness they feel inside. You are not their comments – you are the website you have built, the book you have written and the joy you have brought so may people through your creativity and talented cooking.
I’m so sorry to hear such pain from you. Horrible commenters are the black heart of the Internet. I wish you all the best.
I agree with you Mama Mogantosh, Sandra has shared so much with us, great food ideas, recipes etc.Don’t let the naysayers get to you Sandra, I know the feeling of unemployment and not being good enough for people, even now I work full time, there are some people in my life who try to pull me down and I simply am over it and I won’t let them.
Thank you for sharing this with us, and have a great 50th birthday, I did recently had a great party etc with good friends and family, and being 50 is great!!!!! All the best to you
So sorry to read this *hug*
So well said! People are cruel! Hold your head high, you are the better person!
Cannot believe people make horrible comments like that about you. Thankyou for writing your blog I read it very often
Take with you the thoughts, kind words and love of the ones that have stumbled onto your page. It has helped countless I’m sure. I have only just found you, but understand that you, like so many bloggers, need to take some stock, and some space from the mindless, irresponsible bored people out there who like to attack behind a keyboard. Whether you have been unemployed for a week, or for years, the fact that you have contributed back by writing and sharing your experience IS giving back to the community. Much love and light to you. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY for July. Take as much time as you need.
Well done. This has been a LONG time coming and thoroughly deserved by those sanctimonious shits. You are so much better than them, no amount of space on the internet is enough to begin.
These people gate you because they are too frigging scared to LIVE. So they make themselves feel better by demeaning someone online. They hide behind handles and keyboards so no one can see how pathetic they are and how meaningless they feel their life is. And you know what? Fuck the fucking fuckers. You do what you have to. We’re here, we’ll wait. Con for you, do for you, LOVE for you. You’ve bloody well earned it. And if I’ve passed anyone off, too bad.
All my love xxx
Cook not con (bloody autocorrect)
Sandra, you are an inspiration to many, many people; including me. Please don’t forget that for a single nasty comment you may receive, there are hundreds or even thousands of people out there who enjoy what you do and respect and admire you, they just don’t feel the need to comment.
Keep up the good work but remember to put yourself first. You are worthy of anything.
I have just read your post and totally shocked that there are people out there who want to put you down. I have seen your book in the shops and thought to myself “Good on her.” You are a published author with books sold in bookstores, department stores etc, how many people can say that? I really believe in the old saying “If you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I really admire you for writing the book and making the best of the situation you were in at the time. I really hope thinks turn around for you and filter all the comments taking to heart only the positive. Diana
Sandra, I’m sorry about all the haters. I love your website, the idea and the help it gives to so many people. I bought your book and gave it to a friend because she needed it more than me. Take as long as you need to get into a better headspace. I’ll keep coming back to see if you’re back yet. God bless.
I’m so sorry for what you’ve had to endure. I don’t even like to cook but I love your writing style and have been a regular visitor since you started.Keep your head up and good luck with it all x x
Wow. When the world has beaten you to this point, it’s a very sad day. My thoughts are with you.
I am so sad to read this. I hope things improve for you Sandra. You are in a very dark place right now and I hope you find the light soon. The only person you have to answer to is YOU. Don’t let the haters beat you, if you do, they win. You have been an inspiration to me and I genuinely hope you find your way through this minefield you have so unfairly been thrust into. I look forward to seeing you rise like a pheonix from these ashes… just don’t let the fire consume you.
Best wishes xxxx
Honey I will call you soon.
Chop wood. Carry water
“Chop wood. Carry water”
Nice reminder
In metta,
Raven
good grief, what on earth is going on in the world, i have not been following your blog/posts much, just reading odd recipe etc and had no idea about this BS. nobody is better/worse than anyone else and i pray you find the strength to continue on your cooking journey with a return to these pages soon. walk your walk knowing many folks love and appreciate you and have a wonderful 50th birthday. you don’t need the fanfare, although it would be nice if some make a fuss, just to know those important to you give you a hug and their love. take care, wendy
Sandra, I just want to hug you. I can’t believe that people would do this to you. What you do and have done to get where you are is nothing short of fantabulous! I hope that while you are having time away, you find the strength you need to return to cooking and sharing with us like you do. You have to come back, so that you can tell them to stick it up their ****. Don’t let them win.
I watched QandA last night. Jackie Weaver said the biggest haters are the worst spellers. I think she’s right!
I had no idea. I never bother reading the comments. People can be so ghastly but in order not to go absolutely crazy I have to believe that the horrible trolls are the minority.
Good on you!! I hope the time out is everything you need it to be. It’s good for the soul to refocus, reenergise and reinvigorate. I hope you find that and I look forward to your return. You have my admiration
One of the few (but very significant) downfalls of the power of the Internet. Anyone can get on a soap box and can hide behind anonymity.
Best of luck in looking after you.
Im so sorry you’ve had to endure that. I’ve lived every recipe of yours I’ve tried. I’ve never questioned your motives, intentions or drivers beyond wanting to do the best with the skills you have – a fantastic flair for compiling, tweaking and presenting a wealth of recipes I can use to feed my beautiful family. I wish you well, I hope you have a wonderful birthday, and look forward to the next iteration of your cookabilities!!
Hehe, love the ‘sanctimonious shits’ comment. Good on ya Sandra, there are some truly foul people in our society today. Paris is always there, doesn’t have to be a big birthday to go
Dear Sandra,
How awful and what a shame but good on you for telling these trolls to go and fuck themselves. It is so sad to think that others can waste energy on such destructive behaviour. Sadly, some people don’t evolve past schoolyard mentality.
For the record, I think you are great. Your blog is great, your ideas are great and your writing is exceptional. People like to judge. I pity them, it’s so much more fun to outwardly beam positivity.
I wish you revitalisation and rejuvenation and hope that your break allows you to keep your incredible energy for yourself while you nurture yourself back to your intended greatness. I admire you even more for having the self love and respect to say this is not OK and that you are better than that.
Thank you for the recipes, anecdotes and inspiration.
All the best,
Querida
Go you!! I’ve never really understood why people go after you – I saw it on a forum once and it left me confused. I think you’re fabulous – FABULOUS. I hope all the love all the normal people have for you gets through, and helps you through this rough patch. Those trolls are sad, pathetic, angry, empty-hearted people – something you’ll never be. xxx
I literally just joined your email subscription only a week ago, so I can’t help feeling disappointed that I’m not going to be apart of something where women help each other out to make ends meet.
I’m sorry for the hell you’ve obviously been through. No-one should have to put up with the psychological and criminal behavior inflicted on you.
Sandra, all I can think right now is – don’t let them win. Don’t let them question your motives, your talent and your ability to make a meaningful connection with other women.
Perhaps when you set this endeavor up and you began to get known – you needed to take steps to ensure your emotional safety from these people – have a barrier in place between you and the abusers. Someone to veto comments of the ignorant minority.
Take your break – sounds like you need and deserve one. But come back – better than ever, and do what you need to, to look after your emotional self next time.
You tell them!! Cant believe people are like that. So much hate when it is not wanted or needed.. As if unemployment is asked for. It is not the be all and end all. It costs me MORE to put my two kids in fulltime daycare than I would earn, so until they are at school I am self employed (photographer/artist) and my hubby earns the bacon.. You are a strong lady to have kept this in. Good on you for fighting back. Oh and HAPPY BIRTHDAY for our upcoming 50th.
OMFG Sandra. My sweet Sandra. I wish we had more time together last time we caught up, I felt things weren’t good but not this bad. You were more interested in hearing about my life that you wouldn’t burden me with “This Shit”. Oh how I wish you had. As you know, the kinds of people that we have been involved with in our business & one thing that stood out to me, that one of them shared, (while having lunch with him at Killcare). I said to him, “How do you put up with all the ‘GOSSIP’ (negative) & Sandra I think you know who this was, he said, “As long as they’re talking about me, it’s getting my name out there”. “It’s business, not personal”. The only thing you need to know gorgeous is that you are loved and adored by the ones that matter. What’s the saying, “Those who matter, don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter”. I believe you will turn that corner and you will rise again back up where I know you have been before. Shine my star, SHINE!!! I love you!!!
So sorry to hear that this is happening. These “anonymous” bullies have nothing better to do that to smash other peoples ideas and dreams. I hope you come back bigger and better but I understand your need for a break.
Sometimes all we can so is acknowledge that we need to take a break because we can’t walk any more! I applaud the fact you have spoken out and have seen that you need a break. Take care of yourself and enjoy your time away
Sandra, you are an amazing woman, a fabulous cook and inspirational writer. I have five children, we are always on a tight budget, and I have your blog in my bookmarks bar as I refer to it a number of times a week for both new and tried and tested regular recipes. I just want to thank you for offering such a variety of recipes, for instance, today I made the coconut jam slice and lamington cupcakes for a friend and kids lunches because I knew they would be delicious and they were. There will be many more positive comments for you because quite simply, you deserve them. Read them regularly, print them out, and let all those kind, true words inside. I look forward to your ‘new’ look blog with recipes galore!! xo
Seriously were do people get off? To think you are better then someone else shows that you are no better then them and are probably way beneath them when it comes to showing some compassion, kindness and RESPECT for others.
My mother always told me “If you have nothing nice to say, Don’t say anything at all” by the sounds of it there is people that post on this blog that need to remember that. Maybe ask yourselves before posting/emailing/speaking “would I like that said about me or to me” If the answer is no then don’t do it!!!
I’m absolutely shocked and surprised. This is bullying at it’s worst, the faceless people you can’t see but they still hurt you. I thought this stuff belongs in high school! Sandra you are first and foremost a good person, I feel that in my heart. You have provided a wonderful service to me and thousands of other people who struggle everyday to make ends meet. I hope you can come back bigger and better soon.
Applause!
Oh Sandra – you are a brave strong lady, hold your head high. You have risen above adversity and should be proud. I, like many others had no idea of the vitriol you have had hulred at you, I dont understand it, these haters lack something, actually alot, its just ‘not right’ to take pleasure in being cruel or trying to hurt. Hugs to you, I love your site.
I am very sorry to hear that you have received such abuse in return for sharing your recipes and suggestions to help people cook more economically.
Personally, I have enjoyed reading your blog, and feel that you are offering a good service to those who do not have a large budget for food, or want some ideas about being more thrifty. Those recipes of yours which I have tried have been very enjoyable.
Best wishes for your upcoming birthday, I hope you enjoy the special day that you deserve. I hope that you have every opportunity to recharge and regroup over the coming weeks.
I had no idea hon ……. I visit your site for inspiration and to read your posts only sporadically – I am horrified that you have been put through this hon. What you provide is a valuable service and I hope you don’t walk away for long. *hugs*
Sandra, I am so shocked that you have had to deal with this crap!!! I had no idea….personally I think you are frigging awesome and I adore your blogs. How people can say the things you have written is beyond me….don’t like something then just MOVE ON!!! the hatred in this world is truly disgusting. I wish you a restful break and look forward to seeing more from you when you feel you can. Take care and know that you are a truly beautiful person xxxxxxx
Well done honey. You give hope to so many families. Without your blog many more families would be struggling while bills are going up and wages remain the same. You have been using your talents to help people and in doing so you have received a publishing deal and made a job for yourself. Maybe you could look into doing some classes for other families? There is nothing better than using your skills to make a job for yourself and enjoying your work. Be proud of your accomplishments, and a big “up yours” to the haters, they are just jealous that you get to do what you love every day.
Oh you poor thing. How horrible. It is just dreadful to think of what you have been putting up with all this time. How soul destroying! Look you are not a close friend but I consider you a friend as I have been following your blog for a long, long time as you have graciously shared your life and kitchen with me. I would love to stand shoulder to shoulder with you and face down these sad, sad people. You take your break, and gather yourself mentally again, but you are better than them and do NOT deserve the flack they have been giving you. How dare they! My husband was a policeman who specialized in cyber crime trust me they can be tracked down!!! Please don’t let them win!!
OMG! I can’t believe that people can be so nasty. What it comes down to is that they are jealous of you because you can survive on such a small amount. I reckon it is awesome. I truly hope that these people don’t keep you down, because you ARE an inspiration, to many. To all those families struggling to keep their kids fed well on a small amount. Don’t let them win. They are small, petty people with a very limited idea of what the world can offer. See what it is, is that you are represent that part of life, they simply can’t accept happens.
Don’t let them win. Take time to rediscover yourself, and your passion for food again. Take time to let those wounds heal, though I know that is going to take an awful long time because of a certain element in this world that is full of vitriol, jealously and cruelty. YOU are an amazing woman. Don’t let them take that away from you.
Love Laura
xxxxxooooo
Sandra
wow, I am so sorry that the bastards have worn you down and you feel that you are cariing their burdon. Shake the little vermons off and come out fighting. I will back you 100%.
I love your blogg and love the reciepes, I use them all the time. Have the book and have given them out as presents.
I bought a tattslotto ticket today and if I win it , your getting a share of it
Sandra, go girl!! We’ll all be here when you’re ready to come back to us.
Sandra, I don’t know what is wrong with people … you are brilliant and have taken adversity and turned it around, you’ve built hope out of poverty and in addition to making a difference you’ve made the world better through Food and Love.
Also you have written an excellent rebuttal to the trolls, naysayers and haters and have turned their idiotic vitriol against them, I hope they see themselves reflected in the mirror of their ignorance.
In the meantime you have mastery over two of the most important things in the world.
Obviously they have nothing better to do than put someone else down to try and make their sorry, pathetic, poor excuse for a human being, asses feel better.
If I had to stoop to that low level, the level of putting someone down to make myself feel better, I think I would call it a day……
What sort of a pathetic, dumb ass person would do that to another human being??????
Seriously !!!!!!!
It makes me sick !!!!!
I love reading Sandra’s blogs
I love her cookbooks, not all of the recipes are cooked here, I sure do give a lot of them a test run and many are cooked on a regular basis…..I love the fact that Sandra has the guts and more so the intelligence to write such amazing, interesting blogs and recipes.
Sandra….you deserve the right to hold your head high, you have done it so damn tough, you are an inspiration to me !!!!
Please DONOT let them get to you…they are jealous of your success !!!!
Far out! That’s a lot of hate you’ve been dealing with! I’ve been reading another blogger who has also recently taken a break because of similar issues and it makes me think the internet makes being a bastard SO easy!
I hope you enjoy your time out from blogging, that you rediscover your love of cooking and that when you come back (PLEASE come back!!!) you’ll love it again and find way more love and support than hate.
For my 2 cents, I am amazed that you manage to come up with SO many interesting and clever recipes and idea and that you managed to not only survive but thrive through some amazingly tough circumstances. Thank you for sharing with us!
well, I think you are AMAZING. an inspiration in fact.
I am sorry that I haven’t told you sooner, or louder, to help drown out those hateful little voices.
stay strong xxx.
WOW! so saddened to see people are so callous… I hope your time to yourself will recharge you and let these wounds heal. Will be eagerly awaiting your triaumphant return.
Sandra – I am so sorry that you’ve had to endure all this hatred. You are doing your best to stay afloat, and have built this successful website and a book from scratch. You are doing more than most people are. Keep up the great work, but don’t forget to look after you x
I feel so sad for all that you have been through…you are an inspiration to so many, me included. Hold your head high and know that you are so much better than those faceless fuckers. Look after yourself, care for you and we will be here when you come back. Hugs xx
I’ve only commented once or twice here, always nice things – ie that looks like a nice cake etc. I have to say this comment “This is MY WEBSITE and you are MY bitches, got it? Good.”, really offends me, fair enough some people are hurting you but really calling us all “your bitches” too much for me! That’s really sinking to other peoples level.
Liz, you are all, thousands of you, in my house on a daily basis. I keep it clean, I keep it nice and I don’t swear like a trooper even though I really want to on occasion, mainly because so many of you bring your children with you. But really, I’ve let rip for the first time IN MY HOUSE in two years and you’re offended?
Please – some latitude.
Sandra, swearing I can handle, I swear on a daily basis, that’s not what offends me, what offends me is you called everyone that comes here “your bitches” that shows a lack of respect to everyone. You’re insulting your loyal followers, general public and happeners by, because of a few handfuls of people. I can understand being angry at the people who’ve hurt you, but there is no reason for you to hurt innocent people, or lump everyone in one group… after-all isn’t that what these people are doing to you?
Liz, after so many words written down by me after two years I hope you appreciate that I self-censor and edit my words CONSTANTLY. I never put down something I don’t want to be said or that I wouldn’t say in person. I don’t. Consider these words to be the attack dog at the gate, the dog that senses everyone may cause trouble but that most probably won’t. They’re not designed to offend innocent people like yourself who have been nothing but kind and supportive and understanding from Day 1 – they are purposely in place to remind the hating types that this site is, from now on, heavily guarded. My words will stay in place for now.
Sandra, I thought that last comment of yours was a bloody ripper. I am not offended at all.
I am so sorry that you’ve had to deal with these horrible morons. What disgusting behaviour.
Wonderful post – thank you for sharing your story of strength to those of us who also need to hear it. Thank you for walking with your head held high and mustering the strength to keep on going. Thank you for bringing those of us on a tight, tight budget hope that we can still make food ends meet! And a very, VERY happy birthday and many blessings to you for July.
Tall poppy syndrome combined the the anonimity (dodgey spelling) give people a sense of power which they wield freely. I think anyone (especially a woman) in a position of great visibility cops a lot of flak. I’m sure you and Julia could find a lot in common over a coffee or a few wines.
Never forget, for everyone of those who wish to chop you down, there are a dozen more who want to help you back up.
Keep up the inspirational work Sandra. You are one of my heros. (I started a blog site yesterday – because I had a great role model! Unlike your site, mine is just to prove I can do it).
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I am so sorry for all the negative comments you received. I have enjoyed reading about what you have done and used some of the recipes you posted. Please take care.
People are disgusting! Its the ones with nothing better to do who really want to bring you down! Im with you here sister! Try to make a difference and some TROLL pokes poop at you ( actually flings shit) There is only so much shit flinging you can take! I get you with the cooking – I love baking – I love the satisfaction of seeing someone really enjoy what I create, and when this is taken from you its dark – very dark.
Enjoy your passion beautiful lady. You are making a difference and you deserve and have earned your success!
So sorry you had to write this Sandra. I think you are amazing.
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I am amazed people can be so rude and hurtful. Their world will go full circle though as yours has. Keep strong and keep your head high – you are an amazing inspiration. Enjoy your break. xox
You’ve got so much talent, and expertise in your 49 years
I’m so sorry you e had a hard time. I hope that things become easier foryou . Don’t let this dim your flame
Good on you! No one deserves to be spoke to or of that way. I hope you get back your drive back and find your new lane in life … Enjoy
PS I love it that you made something pretty (from a distance it looks pretty) out of all those ugly words.
PPS You’re going to love 50 – I’m 53 and it just keeps getting better xxx
I’ll never understand why people need to be so cruel. Do as you need to, to heal. I hope one day the haters will see they haven’t won, will never win, against such spirit and determination x
Hold your head up high Sandra you are an amazing lady!!!
I will keep you in my prayers and look forward to you returning with you fantastic recipes.
DISGUSTING? Delete those morons of your page IMMEDIATELY. This is YOUR blog YOUR life and YOUR well deserved hard earned success. Whomever doesnt like it can shove it and go elsewhere I say. NO-ONE should have to put up with any negative comments EVER. DELETE them REPORT them and MOVE on. COME BACK bigger and better and look forward. This break is your new beginning that will mark the rest of your life and im sure it will be BRILLIANT!
I’m new to your blog, but I think it’s brilliant. At my slimming club we regularly see Mums who are obese and feeding their kids junk because they think they can’t afford to cook. In a world of cookery authors who tell us we need truffle oil and weird-and-wonderful cuts of meat and vegetables I’ve never heard of, your affordable cookery is a much needed resource. Running a blog and authoring a book are great achievements (let’s face it, being an author IS a job), which I suspect most of these haters will never manage. Rest assured that for each of these hateful comments, there must be loads of people who really appreciate what you’re doing. I sincerely hope you can continue.
My original comment must have been lost. I wrote that you are an inspiration to me. So much so that I created my own blog site yesterday. Unlike you, it is not to benefit others, it is purely to prove to myself that I can do it!
I think the combo of tall poppy syndrome, the fact that you are a woman, and the anonimity the net provides brings out the worst in people. Because they cannot be held accountable the spew forth dreadful poison! I read that those on MKR get death threats! Think of poor Julia (Gillard), you two, over a few wines, could share the experiences of leading a public life.
Never forget, for everyone of those try to cut you down, there are a dozen of us ready to build you back up. Jane xxx
I have loved your blog, brought your book. I am sorry you have had to cope with this. You have made a huge difference to my budget on food. Thank you so much.
Sandra I am so very sorry that you have had all of that levelled at you, and tbh I agree with your web site and we are your bitches comment. If people want to look at your blog, then deal with it and by your rules. You are strong and can do this. Unfortunatley in this world too many people dont know when to shut their necks and keep their (anonymous, cowardly I say!!) opinions to themselves. Hope you are back soon
I couldnt read through this blog post without leaving a comment saying how sorry i am that people have to be so cruel to others. Please hold your head up sweetie and put yourself above all these horrible people who insist on making these disgusting comments. You are a beautiful person who is only trying to help others and survive yourself and I think you are awesome. You have so many supporters – just as many if not more than there are stupid trolls – so concentrate on the fact that we are here and we love you. Take care of yourself and your family and remember – you are BETTER than them!! *huge hugs* xxxx
Bloody hell. You are amazing. I would have crumbled at the first email.
There are some nasty souls. I don’t know what to say, other than to remind you that you are not those comments.
Take care of yourself.
I hope you get through this, rise above all the negativity and never be afraid to seek help. The comments above show just how many supporters you have. Take care.
It’s a cruel world out there and it makes me want to cry the way it inflicts pain on people. All the very best to you Sandra.
You have inspired us, entertained, challenged us to think about our food choices,shown us what is possible with seasonal and fresh. It is so sad that the moronic feel entitled to cross any boundary to fill space with vitriol. Like most loyal readers, we read your writing and don’t feel the need to follow the comment stream. Sadly that has meant we were oblivious to the rat pack invading. Enjoy your days, do what you need to and know that we look forward to your return on what ever terms work for you.Sincere thanks.
Seriously, people actually troll a *cooking* website? Do they really have nothing better to do with their lives?
Like all bullies, I think it says more about them, than anyone else.
What sad, sad losers.
And for what it’s worth, I have nothing but admiration for you.
Wow, Sandra. I didn’t think you’d ever actually do it but I’m so glad you did. How anyone can walk around carrying all that and with dignity hold it all in for that long I do not know-but it couldn’t go on forever. Here for you always, xxx
I’m ashamed of my fellow humans. You are a courageous and competent person who is an inspiration to so many. You not only had a dream, but had the courage to follow it under trying circumstances. You succeeded in achieving a beautifully written, inspirational and well received blog, but also publication of a recipe book. I hope you can remain strong, continue to follow your dream and live your life and not the one ignorant bullies demand of you.
Good on you Sandra – hang in there. I cannot understand how people can be so gutless as to post comments like that in anonymity.
May you rediscover your joy in cooking, in life, and in opportunities that open to you.
I’ve never read your blog. I only receive the receipes. I haven’t needed to, you cook everything for me. I have tried most of those dishes in your book, I was there when you lost your first job, began your blog, got your 1st interview, I remember when you got the book deal (Fountain Plaza) LOL, TV station came for Christmas dinner (that was so much fun) release of your book. I have walked this path with you, dear friend and I will continue to walk this path with you, you know why, because you are worth it. I know your kids and they are FUCKING proud of you, Hay & Nat are so blessed to have you, look what you’ve taught them & what about my Jake, my troubled Jake, you were always there for him, he always tells me to say ‘Hi’ to you, you impact people’s lives and in 14yrs of MY PERSONAL CLOSE experience, it has always been POSITIVE, SUPPORTIVE, LOVE, GUIDANCE, ENCOURAGEMENT, STRENGTH. Now it’s time for ALL us to give that back to you because that is what ‘Life’ is really about.
I love you Shannon. Ladies and Gentlemen, one of my dearest friends and the fiestiest lady I’ve ever met. Love ya guts xxx
Sending you all my love and support. FUCK THE TROLLS. Take some time away and remember you are cherished.
Mia xxxx
As are you xxx
I am so sorry you have had to put up with such malicious cowardice. People can be real shits.
I stumbled upon your site almost a year ago when I was in a similar position. I was on maternity leave (a single mum at the time) and becoming desperate with my financial situation. Your site gave me hope and your posts have given me loads of inspiration that it can be done without living off baked beans. I continue to get excited when I see $120 food challenge in my inbox even now when I don’t need to save money as much as I did. It is not just the money saving aspect that I came to love about your blog. I love it that you are human – you make mistakes but you can laugh at yourself. You are the ante-food writer in that you lack any hint of pretentiousness – so totally awesome and refreshing.
To some of the nastier comments: being a mother myself it is easy enough to see criticism where it doesn’t exist, but for people to criticise you without even knowing you or attempting the least amount of empathy for you is appalling. At the end of the day you know in your heart what sort of mother you are.
I really hope you take some time to sit down, read all the positive support and absorb the positive feedback you have here over a bottle of wine. I think you should celebrate your achievements (extremely successful blog, published book, meeting Margaret Fulton etc etc.), you deserve it!
I think our government should invest in ventures like this more than stupid insignificant stuff like sport. Personally, I think Centrelink’s money was wisely invested;) I look forward to seeing stuff from you in the future.
Tell ‘em to suck eggs Sandra. Love your blog.
I am so saddened by this. I love your blog. You are amazing. I look forward to you returning, better than ever.
next time you stand in your kitchen with a spatula in your hand, and those wicked evil words creep into your head, i want you to remember this: you are a magician … and out of nothing you produce something truly wonderful, day after day after day. so go ahead and wave that magic wand Sandra, and remember that WE are enriched and enthralled! xt
Oh my goodness, like many of the people leaving comments, I had absolutely no idea you were being subjected to these cruel, heartless attacks. I am so shocked and saddened. I just want to let you know that I am so, so happy that I stumbled across your page. I am 30 have two young kids and am recently divorced, and it is thanks to you that I have at last learnt how to cook, that I am providing my kids ( and me) with nutritious meals and am also ( as an incidental!) impressing my friends with my up to now ‘hidden’ cooking skills. I hope that you can continue sharing and inspiring, much love and thank you x x x x x
Please excuse me a second while I stand up and applaud. Good on you Sandra. Good on you for 2 years of hard work. 2 years of dedication to creating a wonderful, wonderful resource. And bloody good on you for taking a stand and telling the spineless bullies where to go. Bravo Sandra!
Much love to you Sandra, I love your blogs and all your recipes. I too look forward to you returning, take care of yourself and take all the time you need. Thanks so much for all your time and dedication xx
Sandra, Fifty rocks and so do you. You are an inspiration and I am so sad that you have had to endure this garbage when you offer us all red roses. xx
Oh. My. God. I have just found you and now, you’re gone. Your post just tore my heart up. Fuckers. At the same time though, WOW. What an incredible piece of writing. You are some kind of wonderful lady. I can’t ell you how many times I’ve had conversations like that with various asshats but only ever in my head and no where near as eloquent and brilliantly put. You’re brilliant, you’re fucking beautiful. I’m looking forward to catching up on your blog, on your book and awaiting your return. Triumphant may it be.
How unfortunate that the Tall Poppy Syndrome is still alive & is being fed by greed & jealousy. You mustn’t allow the haters to get you down because then they win… you offer valid, workable, and more importantly… BELIEVABLE, solutions to raising a family on a limited income. As far as I can see, the reason why people are negative is because they’re lazy… your solutions involve a bit of hard work – you don’t offer something that comes in a “just add water” packet & when people can’t achieve it because THEY lack basic housekeeping skills they want to blame you for their inadequacies!!! Please don’t let them win – the sun shines brighter, the air is sweeter and good quality coffee is free when you choose the moral high ground (ok, maybe the coffee isn’t free but the rest is true).
Remember… chin up, shoulders back, boobs out, smile switched on – the best revenge is happiness!!! xxx
I cannot believe there are such people out there, who could somehow, someway, out of nothing, find ANY reason to behave in such a manner towards you as to have it come to this… My heart ached & broke a little for you, in reading your post.
I hope this time out gives you what you need to rejuvenate and come back better & stronger than before.
Be well & stay safe.
Well said , I cannot believe the vitriol of some people. So sorry you had to deal with this.
Fall down 10 times & get up 11 just to spite the rotters. You are an inspiration & a truly lovely person that I’ve had the privilege to chat to. Massive hugs & do what you need to. Just come back when you can.
I think your philosophy is amazing and it really winds me up that some people out there hiding behind the internet can be so cruel!
you deserve much better than that sort of crap-take care of yourself , will of course miss your work (real and worthwhile and inspirational work at that!), and wish you all the very best for your hiatus.
I wish I could say I cant believe how horrible those comments are but unfortunately I can believe that people are that cruell. Take comfort that most of us think you have done something amazing. I came across your blog when I was living the good life however my husband has lost his job and your blog has given me hope that I will be able to cope and keep my family fed on half our previous income. By the way you are not unemployed you are just not being paid for the work you do on this blog and helping others in the same situation. You should really talk to someone about how to turn what you do into paid empolyment! I hope you find the strength to return after a break, have an amazing birthday remember thare are many of us who are sending you love.
You have no reason to “put your head down”. Take pride in your achievements. Take the time to nurture yourself, and as Bronica said Paris will always be there, it doesn’t have to be for an “0″ birthday
Sandra I love your blog and I have no idea why it attracts such vitriol from small minded tools. Unemployed, self employed, part time, full time who gives a fat rats clacker. Everyone needs to worry about their own square metre and leave you alone. Good luck with your hiatus- I will be hoping to see you back here soon so I know what to cook for dinner. Sara
Trolls cant ever win. Please don’t let them beat you now. Thanks to you my boys enjoy a wider variety of fresh foods that we cook together. You have a very easy and readable writing style and the world will be a poorer place if you ever stop. Poverty is a difficult thing to escape.. I know because I’ve done it. I will pay to access your fountain of food and life wisdom. Be well dear friend whom I’ve never met. We will be here when you can be back again. Love , Hugs and Kisses. Marjorie
Sandra,
The people who criticise you are far outnumbered by those who love and value you. I have nothing but admiration for you and what you have done. Don’t let the bastards get you down!!!
Hi Sandra,
I was one of your original followers and, even though I don’t comment these days I do pick up your recipes through your face book page.
I had no idea all of this nasty business was still going on – I remember the initial flare up about 2 years ago and it seemed to me to be a part of something ugly in the blogosphere that put me off commenting on blogs for quite a long time.
I don’t know what it says about human nature that people who maintain a mask of civility in their every day lives can step out and become so hateful when they have a chance to be anonymous. Its a modern day KKK phenomena.
I reassure myself that most people are good people, most people are thoughtful and kind and most people don’t behave like this.
You have done some wonderful things Sandra, your delicious recipes have filled my house with yummy smells and filled this families bellies on many nights. Perhaps take heart that most of us out here who read your blog, buy your book and eat your food really do respect you and your achievements.
Hang in there – keep walking
Lisa Woodward (dramaqueen)
Sandra. I’m a hopeless cook, but you give me hope. You’ve made the best out of a crappy situation. The comments are unfounded and by people who don’t know you. Chin up and make yourself that cake and enjoy every last crumb (unless it’s red velvet cake with lots of cream cheese frosting because I’ll be over to help you eat it.)
Sending hugs – don’t let these people get you down!
My Dear Sandra, you don’t know me, but I feel as though I know you. You’ve generously allowed us a peek into your life and home via your blog and Facebook page, and all the while been selfless enough to have given your recipes and ideas for free, even when people feel the need to knock you down. I hope your book sells as many copies as possible. You deserve it after working so hard and having to deal with the bitterness of petty people. Once upon a time, I used to read news blogs and keep up to date with the world that way. But about a year ago, I decided not to do that any more, as the vitriol and nastiness people directed toward each other all but killed my soul. Read the accompanying comments to any article about obesity and you’ll see what I mean within the first few comments. And with people like that, one can *never* win. Don’t engage them, my dear. They are not worth your time or effort. The people who *know*, the people who are so absolutely sure they are right and will never see any point of view but their own, the ones who have the perfect belief that they are right and others wrong and never question that belief… those people are taking the easy way in life. People like you who take up the challenge and see something new to take on, you are the trailblazers. You took the situation you found yourself in and made something out of it.
You should be proud.
Just keep walking.
Much love,
Kerry (Stellar Lare on Facebook)
I’m amazed and shocked Sandra. The vitriol you receive is all about them and not you, seriously, don’t they have anything better to do? Guess not. It’s pathetic. You on the other hand have changed my life. We will never meet but you singlehandeldly helped me to get my finances in order. I can’t thank you enough. Xxxxxx
Oh God, Sandra. What a truly horrible, horrible thing to have to endure. I’ve tears in my eyes as I write this, because your blog (and book) have changed the way my family eat, the way I nuture them. We eat your food several times a week. The bread, anzac biscuits and zucchini pasta bake are particular favourites. I’m sitting here with a slice of your carrot cake as I write. I am horrified that this has been happening to you.
Its not the first time I’ve heard of bloggers putting up with shocking and disgusting behaviour from “readers”. A-M has a good post on it over on her blog “The House That A-M Built” http://thehousethata-mbuilt.blogspot.com.au/2012/03/it-is-not-ok.html. You are not alone, this is happening to thousands of bloggers, but that doesn’t make it OK. I believe that words are more powerful than sticks and stones. And anonymity protects the cowardly.
But please believe that those horrible comments are not about you, they really are about the person writing them. These are sad, angry, hateful, jealous, miserable and self-loathing people, directing all their feelings about themselves outward.
I completely understand your need to take a break and heal. Please know that the vast majority of us fully support you, admire you, aspire to be like you and will be here when (I hope not if) you decide to come back.
Take care, and thank you for everything.
Anne x
I am so very sorry to read all of this. In my day job I deal with people trying to claw their way out of unemployment and it’s a hard slog. I applaud you for doing what you have done. I cannot help but feel if a middle class mum, able to stay at home because her husband earned enough to support the family, started a blog like this, she wouldn’t get anything like the hatred you’ve had to endure.
I understand that you need to take a break but I guess I also want you to know that there are some people out there who know how demoralising and crushing unemployment really is and that you do have supporters. All the best.
Sandra, I’m so shocked and saddened to read of the hateful comments you’ve been receiving. I have another friend who blogs who regularly receives rape and death threats and other nastiness so I guess I shouldn’t be so surprised that you’ve received similar, but it never fails to amaze me the level of vitriol out there. How could anyone object to what you do??? I love your recipes and I think it’s great you’ve been able to publish a book based on your blog. Good on you! Maybe it’s jealousy – some people can’t stand to see others have a go at something and make it a success. What is wrong with these people that they feel the need to tear someone down? I can’t for the life of me understand it.
I understand your need to have a break but please don’t give up! I think you’re amazing and so do many others.
Hi Sandra,
I can only add to the existing comments that I love your blog, I admire you and you’ve helped our household greatly. Whatever you choose to do from here (and I’m sure none of your readers feel you owe us anything), I hope you find it happiness and health. To (probably wrongly) quote a Mumford and Sons song, I hope you can ‘make strength from pain’ and be cared for by your friends and family.
I don’t know what’s worse about the trolls; that they know nothing about you when they try to hurt and discourage you or that they’re ranting at an image in their head of someone who ‘deserves’ their abuse. Either way, I’m sure these people would be ashamed to be shown up in the light of day, with their real identities. I doubt 99% of them could say such things to your face or tolerate the same kind of treatment you’ve battled through.
If/when you do come back to the blog, would it be possible for you to find a volunteer moderator to deal with some of this? It seems like a terribly hard job for you to wade through and vet abusive comments and emails, when they affect you so directly. Just a suggestion.
Thanks for all your work,
Naomi.
Naomi, that’s a great idea – getting someone else to moderate. I’m sure more than one of us would volunteer for such a job.
And I second the comment about paying to access the website. I’d be willing to.
Hey, Sandra. I don’t usually leave comments, but I want you to know that your website has been one I visit regularly, and with pleasure. Not just to find great recipes, but also for your writing, which has been a joy to read.
It’s sad that trolls, hiding behind the anonymity of the internet, feel it’s ok to tear down a person, just because they’re not face to face with their target. I hope that you recover your equanimity soon, and can return to us.
And happy 50th in July
Oh Sandra, what can I say to relieve your hurt. Not all of us think those terrible things that have been said about you. Some of us LOVE you and wait every day for your latest little bit of love shared so willingly and freely. I admire you and what you have been through.You are a tremendous ,loving lady that has reached out to those of us who are lonely, live alone, are aged, not rich, renting a tiny unit in a retirement village, we also have childrenand grandchildren andhave done the hard miles in our lives as well. Truly, we love you and wish we could take from you the pain or share it to make it less. Please don’t turn your back on us, we NEED you. Sandra, you are a good woman with plenty to give to the world out there. Please Keep Walking.
Oh god, reading this just killed me. I hope this time you’re taking is enough to help heal the wounds. Put yourself first and the assholes last, and know that you are worth it. See you upon your triumphant return xx
I’m so sorry that these trolls have hurt you. Please know that there are many, many people out here who are good and kind and love what you have done and try to let their good wishes fill up those wounds left by the sanctimonious shits. I wish you healing and much joy in your future journey. Here’s hoping that soon, you will be, not just walking, but skipping!
I’m so sorry what you’ve gone through Sandra, trolls are the most despicable people I have the misfortune to read. Bravo to you for taking the time out to get well. Take all the time you need. We’ll all be here when you get back. I think you’re an inspiration because I want to have a food blog too, but I can never seem to keep up with it, so I admire greatly people who put the time and effort into it. It’s not easy, and it basically like doing a full time job. So I thank you for taking the time to test the recipes and blog about them here. As someone who is grossly underemployed (hazard of being in the Victorian Public Service), I completely understand that desire to ‘be choosy’ in getting another job. Why should you work for slave wages? Absolutely not. Why should anyone? Anyway, just wanted to join in sending love and support to you, and please remember, there are a lot of people who have got your back, even if we’re just online, we will rally to your defence. Peace, Amanda.
PS. As for the haters saying you’re not a good cook, well, that’s BS, I made your meatballs with the rice (can’t remember the name) and by god, they were absolutely sensational!! So
to haters!!!
PPS. (sorry, on roll) Also, love crowds out all the hate.
Good for you. I’ve never read your blog, or even heard of you, tbh, but I admire your tenacity in any case.
Happy Birthday.
You’re an amazing woman – screw the haters, it’s just jealousy, end of. Sorry that it’s worn you down so much, enjoy your break. xx
Dear Sandra,
I am so sorry to read this. It always shocks me that people can be so nasty for no real reason except that someone is out there and talking. You do good work with this blog, and I’ve bought your book and recommended it to friends on low incomes who have found it very useful.
I wish you a good respite from the nastiness, and hope to see you back here, refreshed and inspiring, when you are able.
love
Catherine
Dear Sandra,
I have enjoyed every minute of your blog and an horrified that your act of giving and opening yourself up to complete strangers and the world is enough for complete strangers to feel justified to abuse you. It’s not right and never will be.
I consider you to be very brave and giving and enjoy looking at all the recipes you provide, even the ones I don’t feel brave enough to attempt. What’s the bet some of these people have still taken the opportunity to avail themselves of your work. One of the reasons I bought your book was because I have used your website so much it seems downright rude not to do so! And more recipes from you are a good thing.
I wish you the best of luck and all strength and I hope your life starts to come together the way you would like it to do. I also think you are deserving of admiration, nay, WORSHIP, for the fact you have kept your blog overwhelmingly positive while copping abuse on all sides.
Enjoy your birthday, enjoy your life. Screw the nutters.
The rest of us will be here for you when you return.
Sandra, I am inspired by your journey as I take a similar one journey myself with my children. I am grateful that you are honest and have integrity and are able to articulate where you have been and what you are going through. This gives others strength. Make sure you come back to your blog. You are having such a positive impact on people who are in a similar position. We are behind you 110%
Oh Sandra,
I love your blog, I’ve missed it for the past few weeks and wondered why you’d stopped posting. I don’t just love the great recipes that I can actually cook, I love how you write and that you are a successful blogger who isn’t pretentious or saddled with an over inflated sense of your own opinion.
Your emails to me when I won the slowcooker competition were so warm and delighted for me, that I feel like you are just one cup of coffee away from being a friend.
Have a wonderful birthday with your children and I hope you have a peaceful time away from here, surrounded by people who know and love you.
Sandra you have brought so much joy into my life. I have followed you since I first found you on channel 7. Your book was given to me by my 3 kidults who have been the recipient of many of your wonderful meals. At the age of 50 I became sick – physically( heart and colorectal cancer) and mentally (breakdown taken by ambulance to Upton house in Box Hill hospital as an involuntary patient. I then endured 4 weeks of living hell. My husband and I have not slept in the same room for 4 years. Fortunately j receive a very small disability pension about $70 per fortnight. The best bit is the concessions we can get. I get the walking. Each day is one day at a time. As you say even one hour at a time. I also care for my mum who is terminally I’ll with a blood disorder that cannot be treated. Every person has a story. My hard luck has taught me more empathy. Financially we survive from each monthly paycheck to the next. My husband is a sales rep and away Mon – Fri every second week. Our one meal together as a family is Sunday night which is sacrosanct. I cook one of your recipes after my oldest intellectually disabled son comes home from his FIDA footy match. You have kept our family together in some ways. Please look after yourself. You seem to be a wonderful person and you have inspired so many others. Take care on this next part of your journey. (I hate that word but couldnt think of a better one). Love. Cathy
What is wrong with people? Can’t believe some of the horrid abuse you have been subjected to. My heart really goes out to you. I’m so sorry these people were so revolting. Don’t let the haters stop you from being your best. Sending love.
I am so sad hear about what you have been enduring. I have so enjoyed your blog and and shared it with family and friends. Some of us find we have to endure the hard yards and we learn much from it. also from others walking in our shoes. I will miss you and hope to see see you in the not to distant future. Best of luck my friend.
Sandra, you certainly don’t deserve this, so rise above it! As you can see by all of these positive comments, you have touched many lives and given people hope. Bless you.
Lisa xx
NOOOOO I am so shocked to read this I love your blog you have provided me inspiration on a weekly basis with what to cook, I can’t believe that you have had to put up with this sort of repulsiveness, I feel really sad for you and all of us that visit your site with only good in our hearts. I hope that you can heal from this and return to us again-don’t let the aresholes bring you down love xxxx
I find it so hard to believe that people can be so full of hatred after all you have accomplished with your blog and book. Our family have been doing it tough recently and your blog has helped me get through it. Thank you Sandra for all you have done and I look forward to hearing from you again soon.
Couldnt belive what I was reading reminded me of nine eleven though I watched it unfold I couldnt beleive it was true. Jealousy is a curse and the people vilifying you are truly cursed.I know you will find the strength to move on from this and achieve everything you want from life. Thankyou so much for your inspiration and can do attitude. Many Happy returns for your birthday. (Life really does begin at 50 take that from one who knows) Open your heart and mind to all the good wishes flowing to you here. x
Sandra, I have been reading your blog off and on for at least 2 years (with delicious anticipation) and cooked many of your recipes. I ran out to the shops and got your book on the very day it went on sale. Please do not waste time on the idiots in this world. I hope you find your peace again and continue to succeed. Best wishes
and hope you have a lovely birthday xxx
Hi Sandra, I am so surprised that anyone would say any of those things about someone else. I just wanted to say that I have been reading your blog for over a year and have really enjoyed it. Many of your recipes have become staples -not because I’m desperately trying to save money, but just because they’re damn good recipes! I guess ignoring what others say is easier said than done. I’m really sad this has happened -and that it has got you down. I just wanted to let you know that there are many many people reading who like me have never commented, but think you’re great. Thanks so much for sharing everything you have.
I don’t give a rats clacker what you do in your life away from this blog. It’s none of my business. I check your site, see if I like the recipe – if I do, I bookmark it or print it off, if not, I go on my merry way. I am so sorry that you are hurting from those idiots and their comments – if you have nothing nice to say – say nothing! – that’s my motto.
Love, Joolz
Have a great Birthday Sandra may it be truly awesome. I missed adding that sorry.
People amaze me I mean the ones that whine about how bad a tv show is or an ad or in your case you blog, if you don’t like it look away, change the chanel turn the page. Don’t just bag and degrade something because it is not to your liking, the one thing I got from my mother was if you can’t say something nice say nothing.
I am so very sorry that you have been subject to this sort of narrow mindedness.
Oh and 62 must have been a very good year indeed
I am so sorry you have had these dreadful experiences. You are someone I really admire
Popped over from MM after the Open Post and just wanted to say I don’t know you, I have only followed your journey sporadically but I am proud of you. Proud of you for saying enough is enough. Proud that you have managed to help so many families who needed somewhere to turn when they couldn’t afford their lifestyles anymore. So many families who needed a cookbook that didn’t include instructions like “Now just add truffle oil…”
From the bottom of my heart, Sandra, thank you. I look forward to your return. If you ever want a place to write that’s very carefully moderated, you drop me a line. You are an inspiration to me. xx
Hi Sandra,
I’m really sad to hear that people have done this to you. You’re to me what being on Newstart represents Making a “New start” and you’ve done that very well.
Take some time out for yourself, enjoy the food you eat and cook and come back revitalised and refreshed and don’t worry about what people think of you. Big hugs from Dobby.
One of those times that I feel deeply ashamed of my fellow Australians.
Chin up lovely lady. As they say, revenge is a dish best served cold.
Linda J
Dear Sandra,
I’m a very new reader to your blog. I only stumbled on it a couple of weeks ago, but already it has provided me with so many wonderful recipes and ideas to adjust old favorites.
I’m very sorry to hear that you have been receiving such terrible hate-mail. You have spent so much time and energy giving to others through this blog. I was lucky enough to find work within a few months of having to go on Newstart, but I will always remember the soul destroying reality of having to ‘prove my worth’ every fortnight to pay the rent.
Thank you so much for wanting to share your creative soul and obvious talent freely through this blog. I will be looking forward to many, many more happy meals. I hope that your time away from the murky interweb community finds you a measure of peace and a chance to nurture your soul. Enjoy your birthday.
Alyce
Sending love and ‘warm fuzzies’ your way. I won’t even try to understand why people are so nasty. Maybe we need a ‘hug a troll day’?
I hope you come back to your blog refreshed and renewed with the knowledge that so many of us, perhaps silently, admire you and wish you nothing but the best.
Cheers,
Hilary
Dear Sandra,
So many others have said all the positive things I would say too, so I will just add my personal story.
I can’t remember when or how I found your blog, but I have loved it ever since. When I need a recipe for something I bought on sale, I come and search here and I have not been disappointed. The most recent dish I made was mushroom and capsicum torta. Delicious, simple.
Take care of yourself and know that for every negative and hateful commenter, there are many more who adore and appreciate what you do.
Happy birthday from another July baby,
Rachael
Oh it must be so empowering to be a hater…
I am so sad to hear this is what you have been enduring. With fame and fabulousness ness is always shadowed by haters.
You have just become even more inspirational to me by sharing this awful experience.
I already thought you were doing an amazing job with keeping it all together with your challenges and still feeding us.
Thank you! We are sated.
We will truly miss you and I so sincerely hope that a wonderful bankable foodie opportunity comes your way during your hiatus.
You absolutely deserve it. It’s your time.
Those people are disgusting. How vile. Good for you. Take some time and reclaim your space when and if you can. Sorry you’ve had to go through such an AWFUL AWFUL thing. Smooches to you. x
Blogging every day/couple of days/week is hard enough. Blogging against the current of hateful comments…? I don’t know how you do it, Sandra.
I hope you get back into cooking/writing about cooking sometime soon as I really enjoyed the book.
i am gobsmacked at how cruel some people are, I read your post two days ago and its haunted me ever since. Im so glad you were able to put your hurt into words, I just want to reach through and give you a big hug.
I dont know your story (although i want to even more now, is that wrong?) but all i see is a woman who for whatever reasons had decided to share her knowledge and love of cooking and budgeting with people like me. And i applaud you for your fantastic effort.
I bought your book a while ago and love it, ive told friends to buy it but now ive read your post ive gone and bought 5 more for family. this is my way of telling those HORRID,CRUEL,NASTY people who clearly are very jealous of your success to STICK IT. I for one will be following you even more closely now and i hope (although its hard) you will try and put those awfull things out of your head and continue to shine.
thank you for the lovely book and thank you for being able to share your hurt. One huge big hug from me to you. xoxox
Keep up the good work. I am not a regular reader of your blog but think you deserve recognition for your frugal approach to food budgeting. While there are many people out there with awful attitudes and who are more interested in cutting people down than anything else, please know that there are a silent majority who applaud what you are doing.
Please know there are many of us who read about your adventures cheering for you and knowing the pain it is to only be able to afford lentils and rice and what your garden grows; no splurges. Fortunately, I’ve never to bear that burden for long stretches but I do appreciate anyone’s effort to eat good food while dealing with a budget.
Like commentators above, I’ve worked indirectly with people who struggled with unemployment (as well as been there myself) and mostly it reminds me that our focus on paid “work” is so utterly economy and dude-centric. Motherhood is work. Laundry is work. Cooking is work. Vacuuming is work… as are meal-planning, and being the social glue of families.
I’ve taken mini-breaks from blogging several times and always find them refreshing. I hope yours is also helpful.
P.S. Please, please, please let us log-in with wordpress rather than a site-specific log-in.
It’s difficult for me to describe just how much this site has meant to me, but suffice to say I visit regularly, even when there are no new posts to be had, and I will be one of the first to celebrate your return.
Your posts have felt like a warm hug, and I will miss the gentle guiding hand as I forge ahead in my quest to cook like a pro (i.e. you).
Rest, recover, rebuild yourself, and know that we will wait patiently for your return.
xoxo
I have a collection of food stained printed recipes from your blog at my house. We have been under financial pressure for the last 9 months or so and I turned to your blog constantly for ideas on stretching the food budget. I feel that I know you and reading the post made me well up with the realisation of how those awful people have hurt you. love and wishes.
Some people cannot accept others success.You have fought the hard fight and now deserve some rest and relaxation..You have made a difference to my life and that of my family. I hope I can say that before I shuffle off this mortal coil.Good Luck Sandra.
I’m a huge fan of your blog-I’ve saved it under favorites and check it regularly. I’ve never commented before but feel I now would like to add my support.
Your blog is a joy for those of us on a tight budget! I have the Catalan beef stew in my slow cooker as I type.
I have no idea why people would cause you so much anguish. I hope they read your rant and get shocked into a skerrick of empathy! Or have some shame for their awful behaviour.
Will look forward to your return and wish you all the best on your break.
Sandra, just remember that for every person who sends you something hateful, there will be hundreds of others who love and support you but remain silent.
Don’t let a very small number of cowards get to you. There is a world of lovely people out there.
I like everyone else here is totally flabbergastered that people are so hateful.
When times were tough you did what you needed to do to support your family and decided to share it with others and in the process grew a following that is outstanding.
These people are small minded and lead pathetic little lives and makes them feel bigger to criticise others who get off their backsides and make a go of it because they are too stupid to do so. All I can say is that Karma will take care of them eventually as the blackness that lives inside them will consume them until they die a lonely death.
I personally love your site and think that it is a brilliant idea to make it logon only, just make sure you have one of those confirmation authentication email things to weed out the losers.
Have a good rest and come back nice and refreshed. You will be missed whilst you are not walking.
I am so sad that you are going through this, thinking of you and sending lots of hugs.
Oh Sandra, my heart breaks for your pain. How vile and cowardly these people are! I adore you, as do many from the above comments. Take time to heal, and always remember that you are held in such high esteem. I havent been online much for a while as I am now too ill to cook. I only signed on to tell you how much I love your book (I just received it as a gift), and its a great pleasure to have a small part of you in my home. Still love those christmas cakes ( hubby will be making them this year), lets see if he gets as excited as I did……..LOL. Lots of hugs and warm wishes. Tan
Thank you Sandra I have missed your posts I have MS and have had to really take stock of my life and what life means in general. Every morning I enjoy lovely little things one of them is your website. Have a Good Break come back strong do not let these people stop you from the GOOD that you do. You need to pray for these people and God knows they don’t deserve it and offer your sufferings to him and God will send you double the Grace you need to continue your GOOD work. People seem to forget these days not everyone makes it to Heaven, they stay in their own Hell that they start here.
Come Back Strong Lots of Love
Sonya
Sandra, I’m so sorry that you had to endure this. I love your website and come here regularly to get new recipe ideas. I always find something great. I’ve also bought your book. I think you’re fantastic. I hope you enjoy your break and really hope the trolls get what they deserve.
Don’t let the bastards get you down. Like others here, I also have your book, love it!
I’m so glad you do. And thank you for all your encouragement, without it I would never have thought myself anything other than an average cook and a sometime writer. Take care. x
Hi Sandra,
You have more fans than haters, don’t let the nasty bastards get to you. Their bile is a reflection of themselves, not you.
You have created something awesome to be celebrated. I too have very limited funds so was overjoyed when I found out about you on Mamamia.
If you need a moderator I would be happy to do that for you for free when you return.
Contact Woogsworld and edenland over a coffee and talk about living in the public domain, I’m sure you’ll see it’s not about you.
Have a wonderful, joyous 50th, you deserve it. X
People can be awful. You are so generous in what you share, so thoughtful and articulate in the way you share it and your approach to life is inspiring. Thank you. I love your blog and can’t wait to get the cookbook. Great cover, by the way! Don’t let the bastards get you down. They are just broken people.
i think you’re wonderful!!!!!!!
It is wonderful to see how many loyal and loving followers you have including me.
Way to go, Sandra!
I have followed your blog extensively since I moved out of home with my boyfriend (now husband) and it has helped me so much. It has helped me become a better cook as well as manage our budget. You have inspired me to think more creatively about food & through your blog, YOU have equipped me with some life skills I didn’t have three years ago. Thank you so much.
As far as I’m concerned, anyone who would say those kind of things about you, your family or your blog can blow it out their old wazoo!
Congratulations on all your successes & wishing you all the best for the future.
*holds glass of champagne* Cheers darling!
I an deeply sorry to read such pain. I understand, but hope when you return to your blog that you can do as so many others do when commentors’ poison seeps through – ignore it and them. If it is fequent get someone else to moderate and delete. Usually the viciousness comes from angry little lives – you just become a convenient bullseye. Its a phenomenon of the blogasphere and you are too valuable to be brought down by it. I wish you well – what a wonderful idea – Ive only just discovered you thanks to Carli – but will definitely check in again for help feeding my own family. Good luck xjbb
This is the first blog post of yours I have read and I’m sorry to hear you’ve been driven to a break, but I can completely understand the need. I am now going to peruse the rest of your blog. People who make such ignorant comments obviously have a deep-seated need to put others down and feel “better than”. They do not understand at all. I’m not telling you anything you don’t know of course, just saying. Flying spaghetti monster knows I could not deal with perpetual attacks. I’m just sorry that people have to endure them when they are trying to put something positive into the world. Please take care of yourself.
Your words were heart-wrenching to read. It’s discouraging at best, and downright shitty if I’m being honest, that someone with a clever, unique, groundbreaking idea like this could be knocked off pace by a worthless bunch of rock throwers. We get to live one life. Each of us. And if the world is full of people who are happy to spend their one life working a job they despise, muddling along, marking time, waiting to retire or die, whichever comes and saves them first – good for them. But why should everyone else have to do that? Why should you or I? You owe it to no one to defend yourself, yet look at what you’ve done! Instead of laying down and accepting defeat at the crap cards you’ve been dealt, you’ve ingeniously gone and created something amazing, helpful, and VALUABLE. And you’ve shared it with the masses. How many people can say that they spend their day changing lives? You were miserable and had nothing to give. And now, you are making a difference in hundreds, maybe thousands, of lives. The courage you had to walk away from a dead end has resulted in you being able to give gifts with no end in sight! How many others can lay claim to something like that? I can see how a continuous barrage of judgment, negativity, and cruelty would take a toll on someone, but know this: for every ignorant idiot “out here” that has dared pass judgment on you, there is another who puts you on a pedestal for taking a bad situation and not only making it better – but making it a beautiful thing. Screw them. I wonder how many send a hate message and then go nab one of your recipes. Rest and recover and then come back to those of us who “get it” and appreciate your gift.
Dear Sandra, Only found your blog a few months ago and I think it’s wonderful. I’ve made many recipes from it already. I’m truly sorry to hear about the hideous comments some have been making and the impact they’ve had on you. Please know that you have had such a positive influence on my life all the way over in Canada! Take good care and do what you need to so you can make yourself feel safe and protected.
Sandra, I’m so sorry you are feeling like this. It’s terrible how people have this need to tear someone down when they’re doing something good. I love your blog – it’s been so helpful to me over the past few months. Take all the time you need to get yourself happy again. Those people aren’t worth it. Enjoy your cooking and happy 50th!!
I am sorry to hear what a hate filled place the world can be when you have been generously giving and sharing your talent with everyone. I was overjoyed when I found your website and am truly saddened that such awful people exist and think they need to express themselves in such a hurtful way that it has caused you so much distress that you need a break.
I hope you gain strength, keep up your courage and that good things come to you.
Enjoy your birthday.
Dear Sandra,
I am so sorry to hear how horrible people have been to you! I would like to thank you for changing my families life. I found your blog in december last year and was inspired to try the $120 challenge. Whilst my family is just my partner, myself and our 2 cats, we were still wasting so much money on food. Thanks to your blog I have almost successfully cleared my credit card debit and paid off my car 2 years early!! We are now saving and planning an overseas holiday next year.
My partner and I shop every sunday at the Vic market. Planning our weekly menu and hunting for specials is now rountine and a highlight of our week. We love our weekly market shop and occasional sneaky bratwurst.
This weekend we planted more herbs, spinach, silverbeet and carrots on a small balcony garden. These activities make the stress of the working week disappear and help to bring us closer together.
So thank you Sandra for helping to make my little family happy and healthy. You are truly an inspiration!
Krista
Dear Sandra,
I think you are talented, generous, inspiring, accomplished, kind & brave. Thank you for your blog & great ideas!!!
Dear Sandra,
Just want to thank you for being brave enough to share your knowledge and passion with us. The best thing I have got from your website is a recipe for lovely biscuits which I make with my two little boys regularly, it has become a family staple, and for this I thank you. Not just for a delicious and cheap recipe, with no additives, but also for the time I get to spend with my children and the closeness it brings us.
Hope you come back stronger than ever,
Michelle.
Hi there Sandra,
I don’t normally comment on blogs… and I have to say that I’ve never commented on your blog before now… But I do come back here time and again for inspiration when my purse strings need to be tight or too many bills have come in at once.
I’ve never understood haters… I mean, if you don’t like it don’t read it right?
But there just seems to be so much hate going around in this world… on every level.
For what its worth, coming from a completely stranger – Sandra, All the best, I think its great that you’ve taken the bull by the horns and are creating the life that you want to live.
As for Centrelink support – isn’t that what its for? Its not a lifestyle… but rather a support to help you through while you get yourself sorted. That’s what we pay taxes for, and from what I understand that’s exactly what you did until it all got too much! So, you haters out there, back off… and think about what you will do if you quit your job, or lose your job, what will you do then? I bet most of you will have fronting up to Centrelink to see what support they have for you at the top of the to do list!
Anyway Sandra, thanks… its obvious from all the myriads of comments above that you have so much support and I hope the supporters far out weight the haters, and that is great to see!
I wish you all the best.
Kindest regards
Ailsa
Hi Sandra
I am appalled that you have been subjected to such nastiness. I receive your recipe emails, but haven’t really had a chance to get to grips with reading your blog regularly, so am shocked to hear of the personal attacks that you have been subjected to. I thoroughly enjoy reading the recipe emails as they pop in to my inbox and have recreated more than a few of them. I live in the UK these days, but have lived in Australia so some of the recipes trigger happy memories for me of delicious meals I ate many years ago.
Hearing so much hurt from a fellow human being breaks my heart, perhaps that’s the mother in me
I’m hoping that the outpouring of support in the comments here are going some way to ease the pain that you must be feeling.
I think you wrote very eloquently about a subject that no doubt hurts like hell. Your head should be held high for dealing with this awful situation with such grace.
I wish you all the best for your pause from the site and I hope that you are blessed with good things and good people.
Kindest Regards
Gwenan
Those uggly comments were posted by awful peoples, who only see what’s in front of their noses and therefore can only maket assumptions.
If you scratch only a but you can see that what you had the courage to do is absolutely brilliant.
After years of being bullied, I decided to study and leave a awfully place of work. While I was studying, I struggled to keep our household costs down. It was soooo hard and I was managing poorly. One day I came accros you page and since I can now feel like I can cope with everything life will throw at me. I even made your beautiful bread. And the book is a great source of recipes as well.
I admire you. Thanks to you I fell like a better mum, wife and cook.
Sandra – I think you are a legend. I admire you in so many ways. And for your whole self, not just for your recipes.
It made me quite teary to read this. No one should have to endure what you have been through.
I wish you all the best for your 50th. If you are in Sydney, I for one would love to bake you a cake.
I have just read your ‘Keep Walking’ and words fail me. At present I’m in tears, I cannot understand what people get out of being so unbelieveably cruel. There is something missing from their basic humanity.
It’s not always easy to block out such garbage but make sure you keep on doing so.
Time will pass and hopefully only good things will present themselves to you.
Thanks for all the tasty recipes and best wishes for your birthday!
Wishing you Happy Days ahead.
Elizabeth
I have loved your website Sandra. I’m a person who rarely cooks but will print out a recipe of yours knowing that it will come out according to plan. I’ve made the most basic of things: cheats Christmas cake, gravy for roast chicken, slow cooker recipes….I’ve also learned how to shop in season, the way to store herbs and stock a pantry.
Basically, your website has given me the confidence to try and be a cook! Logging on to your website is always something I look forward to and I am truly grateful for all your hard work.
I loved your stories for the competition last year as I felt I got to know you a little and hope you do some more writing about other topics.
I have no idea why all those people are so negative and I can’t imagine why that would be so hateful towards you and your family. I truly wish you well Sandra. A big thank you for the “!20 dollar food challenge”.
I love this blog! It makes me so sad that people have reduced you to feeling this way.
Lots of love to you and happy 50th!
Sandra: your blog is fantastic. I love it and recommend it to all my friends!
Hope you have a really excellent time just looking after you and celebrating your birthday. I hope you make yourself a very large cake!
Take care and looking forward to the exciting new site mid-year!
Wow. I too cannot believe you have received such vile comments. May time heal and please know that for every nasty person in the world, there are a hundred nice versions (or so I like to think!). Your blog is valued by so many. Good luck Sandra. You are valued by all of your loyal readers in the cyber world.
I am truly gobsmacked by how disgusting those people are. Please please don’t listen to them. I think you’re fantastic! Am going to go out and buy your book. Look forward to your new site xx
That makes me so sad to read. I actually feel sick. What has happened to people? How dare they? Good for you! Tall poppy syndrome is rife in Australia.
I have never left a comment on your website but I feel I am compelled to after your article.
I have been using your website for over a year for most of my recipes and I need to tell you, your recipes have been fantastic and helped me and my family save a lot of money. Never once did I feel the need to complain or criticise or judge you, and quite frankly I don’t understand why others do. In fact its a credit to yourself to have given all of us the privilege of your wisdom whilst you have endured a difficult time in your life. Very few people share positive energy at any time in their life, but for you to share it during one of the most difficult times in your life is a credit to yourself. I wish you the best and I hope to enjoy your wonderful new recipes again when you upgrade your site. Live, Love and remain Beautiful. Kind Regards Tracy S.
You are truly wonderful Sandra. So sad to think of people being hurtful to you, its pathetic that people need to bring others down to make themselves feel good. You are inspirational and have given me hope during my own hard times. I have a folder of all my family’s favourite recipes printed out from here. I love your blog and hope to read it for many years to come. Best Wishes and Kind Regards.
Wow i’m shocked and truly saddened to hear that people have been so cruel to you Sandra- people who make horrible comments to others have their own issues and they are trying to bring other people down to make themselves feel better. Its part of evolution-they were probably inbred somewhere along the line. I hope you are feeling much better soon. I love all your recipes and the way you write.
Oh Sandra.
Your blog is the first one I read each day.
It was a lifeline to me when raising 2 kids under 3.
Your meals and meal planning helped our family so much.
Cannot believe you have suffered so much attack.
Those people have no dignity.
Focus on you, and nurture you.
We will be waiting when you feel ready to come back again.
Good idea to block comments or secure the login details.
Maybe Gillard can try for a new law on internet trolls? it is not physical verbal assault, but just as damaging.
Hugs to you and thank you.
I wish you all the luck you need, but you work so hard, it isn’t really luck. I know how you feel. I will be looking out for your book, I have a local bookseller who is very good at ordering stuff for me. I couldn’t believe what I read on those links… any way, think, those people who claim they are at work, are probably on Facebook at work, and not really working! But they get paid for it anyways, as long as they aren’t caught. Holding down an awful job doesn’t prove anything to anyone, and then there’s the working poor who would be glad to read your blog and realise they can at least cook good meals for their family. We all live and learn, no matter how old we get. I’m 56 and still learning stuff. Imagine if people got to a point and thought: well that’s it, I know everything, I’ll just continue how I am for the rest fo my life. Pretty boring that would be. Your blog helps us learn more stuff.
I am late to this post, having seen you talk about it on Facebook just then. I think you are FANTASTIC !!!! I have admired you for some time now and been inspired by your journey. I have made several of your recipes and enjoyed them. Keep going, stay positive…. you have many who believe in you and appreciate you. Sonia xxx
Oh you poor darling – how absolutely OUTRAGEOUS that people should target you like this when you are doing so much GOOD. When you have had the courage to step up and out into public view and given the gift of your talent – 900 recipes? WOW!! Its absolutely obvious that trolls and haters and sanctimonious SHITS haven’t achieved a single worthwhile thing in their lives – and you have! You definitely have. So you wrote this article in May 2012, and I hope you’re feeling stronger now in September. You’ve got yourself another fan right here now – and yes, I’m using my REAL name! Much much love to you, and lots of virtual hugs.
Omg, people, bloody people!
I’m sad to say I haven’t been on this site for ages, my own loss I know! But I do have to speak up here after reading the above. It saddens me terribly, really pisses me off!
I was actually fortunate enough to work with Sandra in her “developing” days of this very blog. Here’s my 2 bobs worth.
Sandra you are an absolute inspiration. You took responsibility for yourself and your family and you took action. Most of us aren’t that strong. We’re all great talkers but tend to be lazy or too scared to take any real chances. You took those initial steps out of sheer necessity, and in my eyes, and I know in the eyes of your blog followers you have been an inspiration to us all. Thank you!
Continue to shine and grow Sandra – soar like an eagle, you truly deserve it.
Wishing you – your Heart’s Desires – Great Health and Endless Joy
Love Moira xxx